{"id":273,"date":"2023-04-20T19:33:35","date_gmt":"2023-04-20T23:33:35","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/pressbooks.library.torontomu.ca\/champsinaction\/chapter\/3-5-lifetime-achievement-award-party\/"},"modified":"2023-06-08T08:45:42","modified_gmt":"2023-06-08T12:45:42","slug":"3-5","status":"publish","type":"chapter","link":"https:\/\/pressbooks.library.torontomu.ca\/champsinaction\/chapter\/3-5\/","title":{"raw":"3.5 Lifetime Achievement Award Party","rendered":"3.5 Lifetime Achievement Award Party"},"content":{"raw":"<div class=\"3.5-lifetime-achievement-award-party\">\r\n\r\n<strong>Learning Objectives:<\/strong>\r\n<ul>\r\n \t<li>To support participants in gaining a clear understanding of their values<\/li>\r\n \t<li>To support participants in developing a sense of continuity of values throughout their lives<\/li>\r\n \t<li>To promote awareness of the relationships between value, goal, and action among participants<\/li>\r\n<\/ul>\r\n<strong style=\"text-align: initial;text-indent: 48pt;font-size: 1em\">Materials:<\/strong><span style=\"text-align: initial;text-indent: 48pt;font-size: 1em\"> Blank paper and pens, flipchart paper, markers, masking tape Worksheet 3.5.1 - My Lifetime Achievement Award Party<\/span>\r\n\r\n<strong>Time<\/strong> <strong>Required: <\/strong>50 Minutes\r\n\r\n<hr \/>\r\n\r\n<h2 style=\"text-align: center\"><span style=\"margin-left: 26pt\"><\/span>Activities &amp; Instructions<\/h2>\r\n\r\n<hr \/>\r\n\r\n<h5><strong>Set-up:<\/strong><\/h5>\r\n<ul>\r\n \t<li><strong><em>Facilitator<\/em><\/strong> <em>writes<\/em> <em>the<\/em> <em>following<\/em> <em>two<\/em> <em>sets<\/em> <em>of<\/em> <em>questions<\/em> <em>on<\/em> <em>two<\/em> <em>separate<\/em> <em>flipchart<\/em> <em>pages.<\/em> <em>To<\/em> <em>be<\/em> <em>used<\/em> <em>as<\/em> <em>summary<\/em> <em>after<\/em> <em>giving out the instructions.<\/em><\/li>\r\n \t<li><span style=\"text-align: initial;font-size: 1em\">Set 1:\r\n<\/span><strong style=\"text-align: initial;font-size: 1em\">WHO<\/strong><span style=\"text-align: initial;font-size: 1em\"> is the IDEAL person to speak about you?<\/span>\r\n<ul>\r\n \t<li>What would you most want people to say about you in terms of:\r\n<ul>\r\n \t<li><strong style=\"text-align: initial;font-size: 1em\">YOUR<\/strong><span style=\"text-align: initial;font-size: 1em\"> <\/span><strong style=\"text-align: initial;font-size: 1em\">VALUES:<\/strong><span style=\"text-align: initial;font-size: 1em\"> What you stood for or cared about throughout your life?<\/span><\/li>\r\n \t<li><strong style=\"text-align: initial;font-size: 1em\">YOUR<\/strong><span style=\"text-align: initial;font-size: 1em\"> <\/span><strong style=\"text-align: initial;font-size: 1em\">ACTIONS:<\/strong><span style=\"text-align: initial;font-size: 1em\"> What paths or actions you have taken in your life?\u201d<\/span><\/li>\r\n<\/ul>\r\n<\/li>\r\n<\/ul>\r\n<\/li>\r\n \t<li>Set 2:\r\n<strong style=\"text-align: initial;font-size: 1em\">WHO<\/strong><span style=\"text-align: initial;font-size: 1em\"> is the person MOST IMPORTANT to you?<\/span>\r\n<ul>\r\n \t<li>\u201cWhat would you fear the most that your loved ones thought about you in terms of:\r\n<ul>\r\n \t<li><strong style=\"text-align: initial;font-size: 1em\">YOUR<\/strong><span style=\"text-align: initial;font-size: 1em\"> <\/span><strong style=\"text-align: initial;font-size: 1em\">VALUES<\/strong><span style=\"text-align: initial;font-size: 1em\">: What you stood for or cared about throughout your life?<\/span><\/li>\r\n \t<li><strong style=\"text-align: initial;text-indent: 9pt;font-size: 1em\">YOUR<\/strong><span style=\"text-align: initial;text-indent: 9pt;font-size: 1em\"> <\/span><strong style=\"text-align: initial;text-indent: 9pt;font-size: 1em\">ACTIONS<\/strong><span style=\"text-align: initial;text-indent: 9pt;font-size: 1em\"> <\/span><strong style=\"text-align: initial;text-indent: 9pt;font-size: 1em\">AND<\/strong><span style=\"text-align: initial;text-indent: 9pt;font-size: 1em\"> <\/span><strong style=\"text-align: initial;text-indent: 9pt;font-size: 1em\">NON-ACTIONS<\/strong><span style=\"text-align: initial;text-indent: 9pt;font-size: 1em\">: What actions or paths you have take or not taken in your life based on what you stood for?\u201d<\/span><\/li>\r\n<\/ul>\r\n<\/li>\r\n<\/ul>\r\n<\/li>\r\n<\/ul>\r\n<ul>\r\n \t<li><strong><em>Facilitator<\/em><\/strong> <em>writes<\/em> <em>out<\/em> <em>on<\/em> <em>a<\/em> <em>third<\/em> <em>flipchart<\/em> <em>a<\/em> <em>list<\/em> <em>of<\/em> <em>key<\/em> <em>summary<\/em> <em>points<\/em> <em>(see<\/em> <em>instructions<\/em> <em>below)<\/em> <em>and<\/em> <em>use<\/em> <em>them<\/em> <em>at<\/em> <em>the<\/em> <em>end<\/em> <em>of<\/em> <em>debriefing.<\/em><\/li>\r\n<\/ul>\r\n<h5 class=\"import-Heading7\" style=\"text-align: center;margin-left: 42.25pt;margin-right: 48.2pt\"><strong>Instructions to Participants<\/strong><\/h5>\r\n<ul>\r\n \t<li><strong><em>(Facilitators<\/em><\/strong> <em>provide<\/em> <em>participants<\/em> <em>with<\/em> <em>Worksheet<\/em> <em>3.5.1<\/em> <em>\u2014<\/em> My Lifetime Achievement Award Party.)<\/li>\r\n \t<li><strong>Facilitator<\/strong> <strong>says,<\/strong> \u201cThe following exercise is a tool that helps us examine your own values. This is about what is most important to you in your life \u2013 what you stand for or care passionately about.\u201d<\/li>\r\n \t<li>\u201cIn this exercise, we invite you to imagine that this is your lifetime achievement award. Imagine that your life has unfolded perfectly as you wished. Your friends and family have organized a lifetime achievement party for you, and some of your family members, friends, coworkers, or perhaps even other people in the community have prepared to make speeches about you.\u201d<\/li>\r\n<\/ul>\r\n<ul>\r\n \t<li>\u201cNow we would like you to take 5 minutes to work independently to complete <strong>Part 1 <\/strong>of the worksheet. This is for your own reflection only and you don\u2019t have to share any parts you do not want to share with the rest of the group later. Write down <strong>ideally <\/strong>who might be making a speech about you, and what you would like them to say about you in terms of:\r\n<ul>\r\n \t<li>Your values, or what you stood for or cared about throughout your career?<\/li>\r\n \t<li>Your actions or non-actions, that is, what actions or paths you took in life based on what you stood for?<\/li>\r\n<\/ul>\r\n<\/li>\r\n \t<li><em>(<\/em><strong><em>Co-facilitator<\/em><\/strong> <em>posts<\/em> <em>the<\/em> <em>flipchart<\/em> <em>with<\/em> <em>the<\/em> <em>above<\/em> <em>questions<\/em> <em>pre-written<\/em> <em>on<\/em> <em>it.)<\/em><\/li>\r\n \t<li><em>(<\/em><strong><em>Co-facilitator<\/em><\/strong> <em>keeps time<\/em> <em>for 5 minutes<\/em> <em>and let<\/em> <em>the participants know<\/em> <em>when the<\/em> <em>time is <\/em><em>up.)<\/em><\/li>\r\n \t<li><strong>Facilitator<\/strong> <strong>continues,<\/strong> \u201cThis second part is about how your values and your actions may not align or match in the eyes of your loved ones, or someone very important to you.<\/li>\r\n \t<li><strong>Then Facilitator continues,<\/strong> \u201cNow suppose you have been given some magical power and you could read everyone\u2019s mind at your the party but they are not aware that you have this super mind-reading power, what would you <strong>fear<\/strong> <strong>the<\/strong> <strong>most<\/strong> that <strong>your<\/strong> <strong>loved<\/strong> <strong>ones<\/strong> <strong>or<\/strong> <strong>someone<\/strong> <strong>very<\/strong> <strong>important<\/strong> <strong>to<\/strong> <strong>you<\/strong> thought about you in terms of:\u201d\r\n<ul>\r\n \t<li>Your values or what you stood for or cared about throughout your career?\u201d<\/li>\r\n \t<li>Your actions, or non actions, what paths or actions you have taken or not taken in life based on what you stood for?<\/li>\r\n<\/ul>\r\n<\/li>\r\n \t<li>Please take 5 minutes to complete <strong>Part<\/strong> <strong>2<\/strong>\u201d<\/li>\r\n \t<li><em>(Co-facilitator<\/em> <em>posts<\/em> <em>the<\/em> <em>flipchart with<\/em> <em>these<\/em> <em>questions.)<\/em><\/li>\r\n \t<li><em>(Participants<\/em> <em>take<\/em> <em>3-5<\/em> <em>minutes<\/em> <em>to<\/em> <em>write<\/em> <em>down<\/em> <em>their<\/em> <em>thoughts.)<\/em><\/li>\r\n \t<li><em>(Facilitator<\/em> <em>debriefs<\/em> <em>the<\/em> <em>exercise<\/em> <em>with<\/em> <em>the<\/em> <em>following<\/em><em> questions.)<\/em><\/li>\r\n<\/ul>\r\n<h5 class=\"import-Heading7\" style=\"text-align: center;margin-left: 42.25pt;margin-right: 48.2pt\"><strong>Debriefing Questions<\/strong><\/h5>\r\n<em>Facilitator<\/em> <em>debriefs<\/em> <em>the<\/em> <em>exercise<\/em> <em>by<\/em> <em>inviting<\/em> <em>participants<\/em> <em>to<\/em><em> share:<\/em>\r\n<ul>\r\n \t<li>\u201cWhat have you learned about your values and your actions in doing this exercise?\u201d<\/li>\r\n \t<li>\u201cWhich aspects of your life did this exercise motivate you to pay more attention to?\u201d<\/li>\r\n<\/ul>\r\n<h5 class=\"import-Heading7\" style=\"text-align: center;margin-left: 42.25pt;margin-right: 48.2pt\"><strong>Key Summary Points:<\/strong><\/h5>\r\n<strong><em>Facilitator<\/em><\/strong> <em>writes<\/em> <em>these<\/em> <em>up<\/em> <em>on<\/em> <em>a<\/em> <em>flipchart<\/em> <em>page<\/em> <em>to<\/em> <em>enhance<\/em><em> learning<\/em>\r\n<ol>\r\n \t<li><strong>Values are our chosen directions in life.<\/strong><\/li>\r\n<\/ol>\r\n<ul>\r\n \t<li>Values guide our action<\/li>\r\n \t<li>Values are something that continually gives us direction, but not something to be achieved<\/li>\r\n \t<li>Values are ongoing, i.e. they are never completed<\/li>\r\n<\/ul>\r\n<ol start=\"2\">\r\n \t<li class=\"import-Heading9\"><strong>Values are different from goals.<\/strong><\/li>\r\n<\/ol>\r\n<ul>\r\n \t<li>Values help us to set goals<\/li>\r\n \t<li>Values motivate us to engage in committed action<\/li>\r\n \t<li>When we go off course, values redirect us towards our goals<\/li>\r\n<\/ul>\r\n<ol start=\"3\">\r\n \t<li class=\"import-Heading9\"><strong>Values helps us remain flexible.<\/strong><\/li>\r\n<\/ol>\r\n<ul>\r\n \t<li>Values are directions and not rigid rules<\/li>\r\n \t<li>We can use different value-consistent strategies to achieve the same goals<\/li>\r\n \t<li>Being clear about our values enables us to see possibilities and alternatives<\/li>\r\n<\/ul>\r\n<ol start=\"4\">\r\n \t<li><strong>Fusion <\/strong>to societal labels and <strong>Avoidance <\/strong>of unpleasant thoughts and feelings often pose barriers for us to take action according to our values. <strong>Defusion<\/strong> and <strong>Acceptance<\/strong> may be helpful strategies to help us address these barriers so that we can focus on what is truly important to us.<\/li>\r\n<\/ol>\r\n<div class=\"textbox shaded\">\r\n<h5 style=\"text-align: center\"><strong>Notes to Facilitators<\/strong><\/h5>\r\n<ul>\r\n \t<li>An example of values as chosen direction \u2013 if values are chosen directions, we can imagine travelling towards the east and no matter how far we walk and drive, we will always be going east\u2026 there is no end point.<\/li>\r\n \t<li>An example of values are different than goals \u2013 one can have a goal of becoming a vegetarian; the values behind being a vegetarian may be: being kind to all animals, reduce impact on the environmental, or supporting vegetarian industry, etc.<\/li>\r\n \t<li>An example of values help us remain flexible \u2013 when we know our valued direction, when we encounter a roadblock, we can find an alternative route that is consistent with our true values, and we will still be able to achieve our goals.<\/li>\r\n<\/ul>\r\n<\/div>\r\n<h1>Worksheet 3.5.1 \u2013 My Lifetime Achievement Award Party<\/h1>\r\n<h5><strong>Purpose:<\/strong><\/h5>\r\nThis exercise helps you to examine your own values, or what is most important to you in your life \u2013 what you stand for or care passionately about.\r\n<h5><strong>Instructions:<\/strong><\/h5>\r\n<h5><strong>Part <\/strong><strong>1:<\/strong><\/h5>\r\nImagine this is your Lifetime Achievement Award party\u2026 Imagine that your life has unfolded perfectly as you wished. Your friends and family have organized a party for you, and some of your family members, friends, coworkers, or perhaps even other people in the community have prepared to make speeches about you. Now take a few minutes to write down:\r\n<table style=\"height: 287px\">\r\n<tbody>\r\n<tr class=\"TableNormal-R\" style=\"height: 25pt\">\r\n<td style=\"padding: 0px 0pt;border: 0.5pt solid #231f20;vertical-align: top;height: 272px;width: 368.5px\" rowspan=\"2\">\r\n<p class=\"import-TableParagraph\" style=\"margin-left: 4pt\">Ideally, who might make a speech? Someone who is important to me<\/p>\r\n<\/td>\r\n<td style=\"border-width: 0.5pt 0.5pt 0pt;border-style: solid solid none;border-color: #231f20 #231f20 windowtext;padding: 0px 0pt;vertical-align: top;height: 32px;width: 770.015625px\" colspan=\"2\">\r\n<p class=\"import-TableParagraph\" style=\"margin-left: 3.95pt\">What I would <strong>like<\/strong> <strong>them<\/strong> <strong>to<\/strong> <strong>say<\/strong> about me in terms of:<\/p>\r\n&nbsp;<\/td>\r\n<\/tr>\r\n<tr class=\"TableNormal-R\" style=\"height: 114.7pt\">\r\n<td style=\"border-width: 0pt 0.5pt 0.5pt;border-style: none solid solid;border-color: windowtext #231f20 #231f20;padding: 0px 0pt;vertical-align: top;height: 240px;width: 362.375px\">\r\n<p class=\"import-TableParagraph\" style=\"margin-left: 3.95pt;margin-right: 17.75pt\">What I stood for and cared about throughout my life? (VALUES)<\/p>\r\n<\/td>\r\n<td style=\"border-width: 0pt 0.5pt 0.5pt;border-style: none solid solid;border-color: windowtext #231f20 #231f20;padding: 0px 0pt;vertical-align: top;height: 240px;width: 407.140625px\">\r\n<p class=\"import-TableParagraph\" style=\"margin-left: 3.95pt;margin-right: 17.75pt\">What actions or paths I have taken in life? (ACTIONS or NON-ACTIONS)<\/p>\r\n<\/td>\r\n<\/tr>\r\n<\/tbody>\r\n<\/table>\r\n<h5><strong>Part 2:<\/strong><\/h5>\r\n<p class=\"import-BodyText\" style=\"margin-left: 11pt;margin-right: 20.55pt\">Suppose you could read everyone\u2019s mind at the party but they are not aware that you have this super mind-reading power. What would you be most afraid that your loved ones thought about you in terms of the following::<\/p>\r\n\r\n<table style=\"height: 302px\">\r\n<tbody>\r\n<tr class=\"TableNormal-R\" style=\"height: 25pt\">\r\n<td style=\"padding: 0px 0pt;border: 0.5pt solid #231f20;vertical-align: top;height: 287px;width: 247.375px\" rowspan=\"2\">\r\n<p class=\"import-TableParagraph\" style=\"margin-left: 4pt\">Loved ones or people important to me<\/p>\r\n<\/td>\r\n<td style=\"border-width: 0.5pt 0.5pt 0pt;border-style: solid solid none;border-color: #231f20 #231f20 windowtext;padding: 0px 0pt;vertical-align: top;height: 58px;width: 891.140625px\" colspan=\"2\">\r\n<p class=\"import-TableParagraph\" style=\"margin-left: 3.95pt\">What I would fear the most that they thought about me in terms of:<\/p>\r\n&nbsp;<\/td>\r\n<\/tr>\r\n<tr class=\"TableNormal-R\" style=\"height: 114.05pt\">\r\n<td style=\"border-width: 0pt 0.5pt 0.5pt;border-style: none solid solid;border-color: windowtext #231f20 #231f20;padding: 0px 0pt;vertical-align: top;height: 229px;width: 418.78125px\">\r\n<p class=\"import-TableParagraph\" style=\"margin-left: 3.95pt;margin-right: 9.85pt\">What I stood for and cared about throughout my life? (VALUES)<\/p>\r\n<\/td>\r\n<td style=\"border-width: 0pt 0.5pt 0.5pt;border-style: none solid solid;border-color: windowtext #231f20 #231f20;padding: 0px 0pt;vertical-align: top;height: 229px;width: 471.859375px\">\r\n<p class=\"import-TableParagraph\" style=\"margin-left: 3.95pt;margin-right: 9.85pt\">What paths or actions I have taken in life? (ACTIONS or NON-ACTIONS)<\/p>\r\n<\/td>\r\n<\/tr>\r\n<\/tbody>\r\n<\/table>\r\n<strong>Reflection:<\/strong>\r\n<ul>\r\n \t<li>What have you learned about your values and your actions in doing this exercise?<\/li>\r\n<\/ul>\r\n&nbsp;\r\n<ul>\r\n \t<li>Which aspects of your life did this exercise motivate you to pay more attention to?\u201d<\/li>\r\n<\/ul>\r\n<p class=\"import-Normal\"><\/p>\r\n\r\n<\/div>","rendered":"<div class=\"3.5-lifetime-achievement-award-party\">\n<p><strong>Learning Objectives:<\/strong><\/p>\n<ul>\n<li>To support participants in gaining a clear understanding of their values<\/li>\n<li>To support participants in developing a sense of continuity of values throughout their lives<\/li>\n<li>To promote awareness of the relationships between value, goal, and action among participants<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p><strong style=\"text-align: initial;text-indent: 48pt;font-size: 1em\">Materials:<\/strong><span style=\"text-align: initial;text-indent: 48pt;font-size: 1em\"> Blank paper and pens, flipchart paper, markers, masking tape Worksheet 3.5.1 &#8211; My Lifetime Achievement Award Party<\/span><\/p>\n<p><strong>Time<\/strong> <strong>Required: <\/strong>50 Minutes<\/p>\n<hr \/>\n<h2 style=\"text-align: center\"><span style=\"margin-left: 26pt\"><\/span>Activities &amp; Instructions<\/h2>\n<hr \/>\n<h5><strong>Set-up:<\/strong><\/h5>\n<ul>\n<li><strong><em>Facilitator<\/em><\/strong> <em>writes<\/em> <em>the<\/em> <em>following<\/em> <em>two<\/em> <em>sets<\/em> <em>of<\/em> <em>questions<\/em> <em>on<\/em> <em>two<\/em> <em>separate<\/em> <em>flipchart<\/em> <em>pages.<\/em> <em>To<\/em> <em>be<\/em> <em>used<\/em> <em>as<\/em> <em>summary<\/em> <em>after<\/em> <em>giving out the instructions.<\/em><\/li>\n<li><span style=\"text-align: initial;font-size: 1em\">Set 1:<br \/>\n<\/span><strong style=\"text-align: initial;font-size: 1em\">WHO<\/strong><span style=\"text-align: initial;font-size: 1em\"> is the IDEAL person to speak about you?<\/span><\/p>\n<ul>\n<li>What would you most want people to say about you in terms of:\n<ul>\n<li><strong style=\"text-align: initial;font-size: 1em\">YOUR<\/strong><span style=\"text-align: initial;font-size: 1em\"> <\/span><strong style=\"text-align: initial;font-size: 1em\">VALUES:<\/strong><span style=\"text-align: initial;font-size: 1em\"> What you stood for or cared about throughout your life?<\/span><\/li>\n<li><strong style=\"text-align: initial;font-size: 1em\">YOUR<\/strong><span style=\"text-align: initial;font-size: 1em\"> <\/span><strong style=\"text-align: initial;font-size: 1em\">ACTIONS:<\/strong><span style=\"text-align: initial;font-size: 1em\"> What paths or actions you have taken in your life?\u201d<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<\/li>\n<li>Set 2:<br \/>\n<strong style=\"text-align: initial;font-size: 1em\">WHO<\/strong><span style=\"text-align: initial;font-size: 1em\"> is the person MOST IMPORTANT to you?<\/span><\/p>\n<ul>\n<li>\u201cWhat would you fear the most that your loved ones thought about you in terms of:\n<ul>\n<li><strong style=\"text-align: initial;font-size: 1em\">YOUR<\/strong><span style=\"text-align: initial;font-size: 1em\"> <\/span><strong style=\"text-align: initial;font-size: 1em\">VALUES<\/strong><span style=\"text-align: initial;font-size: 1em\">: What you stood for or cared about throughout your life?<\/span><\/li>\n<li><strong style=\"text-align: initial;text-indent: 9pt;font-size: 1em\">YOUR<\/strong><span style=\"text-align: initial;text-indent: 9pt;font-size: 1em\"> <\/span><strong style=\"text-align: initial;text-indent: 9pt;font-size: 1em\">ACTIONS<\/strong><span style=\"text-align: initial;text-indent: 9pt;font-size: 1em\"> <\/span><strong style=\"text-align: initial;text-indent: 9pt;font-size: 1em\">AND<\/strong><span style=\"text-align: initial;text-indent: 9pt;font-size: 1em\"> <\/span><strong style=\"text-align: initial;text-indent: 9pt;font-size: 1em\">NON-ACTIONS<\/strong><span style=\"text-align: initial;text-indent: 9pt;font-size: 1em\">: What actions or paths you have take or not taken in your life based on what you stood for?\u201d<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<ul>\n<li><strong><em>Facilitator<\/em><\/strong> <em>writes<\/em> <em>out<\/em> <em>on<\/em> <em>a<\/em> <em>third<\/em> <em>flipchart<\/em> <em>a<\/em> <em>list<\/em> <em>of<\/em> <em>key<\/em> <em>summary<\/em> <em>points<\/em> <em>(see<\/em> <em>instructions<\/em> <em>below)<\/em> <em>and<\/em> <em>use<\/em> <em>them<\/em> <em>at<\/em> <em>the<\/em> <em>end<\/em> <em>of<\/em> <em>debriefing.<\/em><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<h5 class=\"import-Heading7\" style=\"text-align: center;margin-left: 42.25pt;margin-right: 48.2pt\"><strong>Instructions to Participants<\/strong><\/h5>\n<ul>\n<li><strong><em>(Facilitators<\/em><\/strong> <em>provide<\/em> <em>participants<\/em> <em>with<\/em> <em>Worksheet<\/em> <em>3.5.1<\/em> <em>\u2014<\/em> My Lifetime Achievement Award Party.)<\/li>\n<li><strong>Facilitator<\/strong> <strong>says,<\/strong> \u201cThe following exercise is a tool that helps us examine your own values. This is about what is most important to you in your life \u2013 what you stand for or care passionately about.\u201d<\/li>\n<li>\u201cIn this exercise, we invite you to imagine that this is your lifetime achievement award. Imagine that your life has unfolded perfectly as you wished. Your friends and family have organized a lifetime achievement party for you, and some of your family members, friends, coworkers, or perhaps even other people in the community have prepared to make speeches about you.\u201d<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<ul>\n<li>\u201cNow we would like you to take 5 minutes to work independently to complete <strong>Part 1 <\/strong>of the worksheet. This is for your own reflection only and you don\u2019t have to share any parts you do not want to share with the rest of the group later. Write down <strong>ideally <\/strong>who might be making a speech about you, and what you would like them to say about you in terms of:\n<ul>\n<li>Your values, or what you stood for or cared about throughout your career?<\/li>\n<li>Your actions or non-actions, that is, what actions or paths you took in life based on what you stood for?<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<\/li>\n<li><em>(<\/em><strong><em>Co-facilitator<\/em><\/strong> <em>posts<\/em> <em>the<\/em> <em>flipchart<\/em> <em>with<\/em> <em>the<\/em> <em>above<\/em> <em>questions<\/em> <em>pre-written<\/em> <em>on<\/em> <em>it.)<\/em><\/li>\n<li><em>(<\/em><strong><em>Co-facilitator<\/em><\/strong> <em>keeps time<\/em> <em>for 5 minutes<\/em> <em>and let<\/em> <em>the participants know<\/em> <em>when the<\/em> <em>time is <\/em><em>up.)<\/em><\/li>\n<li><strong>Facilitator<\/strong> <strong>continues,<\/strong> \u201cThis second part is about how your values and your actions may not align or match in the eyes of your loved ones, or someone very important to you.<\/li>\n<li><strong>Then Facilitator continues,<\/strong> \u201cNow suppose you have been given some magical power and you could read everyone\u2019s mind at your the party but they are not aware that you have this super mind-reading power, what would you <strong>fear<\/strong> <strong>the<\/strong> <strong>most<\/strong> that <strong>your<\/strong> <strong>loved<\/strong> <strong>ones<\/strong> <strong>or<\/strong> <strong>someone<\/strong> <strong>very<\/strong> <strong>important<\/strong> <strong>to<\/strong> <strong>you<\/strong> thought about you in terms of:\u201d\n<ul>\n<li>Your values or what you stood for or cared about throughout your career?\u201d<\/li>\n<li>Your actions, or non actions, what paths or actions you have taken or not taken in life based on what you stood for?<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<\/li>\n<li>Please take 5 minutes to complete <strong>Part<\/strong> <strong>2<\/strong>\u201d<\/li>\n<li><em>(Co-facilitator<\/em> <em>posts<\/em> <em>the<\/em> <em>flipchart with<\/em> <em>these<\/em> <em>questions.)<\/em><\/li>\n<li><em>(Participants<\/em> <em>take<\/em> <em>3-5<\/em> <em>minutes<\/em> <em>to<\/em> <em>write<\/em> <em>down<\/em> <em>their<\/em> <em>thoughts.)<\/em><\/li>\n<li><em>(Facilitator<\/em> <em>debriefs<\/em> <em>the<\/em> <em>exercise<\/em> <em>with<\/em> <em>the<\/em> <em>following<\/em><em> questions.)<\/em><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<h5 class=\"import-Heading7\" style=\"text-align: center;margin-left: 42.25pt;margin-right: 48.2pt\"><strong>Debriefing Questions<\/strong><\/h5>\n<p><em>Facilitator<\/em> <em>debriefs<\/em> <em>the<\/em> <em>exercise<\/em> <em>by<\/em> <em>inviting<\/em> <em>participants<\/em> <em>to<\/em><em> share:<\/em><\/p>\n<ul>\n<li>\u201cWhat have you learned about your values and your actions in doing this exercise?\u201d<\/li>\n<li>\u201cWhich aspects of your life did this exercise motivate you to pay more attention to?\u201d<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<h5 class=\"import-Heading7\" style=\"text-align: center;margin-left: 42.25pt;margin-right: 48.2pt\"><strong>Key Summary Points:<\/strong><\/h5>\n<p><strong><em>Facilitator<\/em><\/strong> <em>writes<\/em> <em>these<\/em> <em>up<\/em> <em>on<\/em> <em>a<\/em> <em>flipchart<\/em> <em>page<\/em> <em>to<\/em> <em>enhance<\/em><em> learning<\/em><\/p>\n<ol>\n<li><strong>Values are our chosen directions in life.<\/strong><\/li>\n<\/ol>\n<ul>\n<li>Values guide our action<\/li>\n<li>Values are something that continually gives us direction, but not something to be achieved<\/li>\n<li>Values are ongoing, i.e. they are never completed<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<ol start=\"2\">\n<li class=\"import-Heading9\"><strong>Values are different from goals.<\/strong><\/li>\n<\/ol>\n<ul>\n<li>Values help us to set goals<\/li>\n<li>Values motivate us to engage in committed action<\/li>\n<li>When we go off course, values redirect us towards our goals<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<ol start=\"3\">\n<li class=\"import-Heading9\"><strong>Values helps us remain flexible.<\/strong><\/li>\n<\/ol>\n<ul>\n<li>Values are directions and not rigid rules<\/li>\n<li>We can use different value-consistent strategies to achieve the same goals<\/li>\n<li>Being clear about our values enables us to see possibilities and alternatives<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<ol start=\"4\">\n<li><strong>Fusion <\/strong>to societal labels and <strong>Avoidance <\/strong>of unpleasant thoughts and feelings often pose barriers for us to take action according to our values. <strong>Defusion<\/strong> and <strong>Acceptance<\/strong> may be helpful strategies to help us address these barriers so that we can focus on what is truly important to us.<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n<div class=\"textbox shaded\">\n<h5 style=\"text-align: center\"><strong>Notes to Facilitators<\/strong><\/h5>\n<ul>\n<li>An example of values as chosen direction \u2013 if values are chosen directions, we can imagine travelling towards the east and no matter how far we walk and drive, we will always be going east\u2026 there is no end point.<\/li>\n<li>An example of values are different than goals \u2013 one can have a goal of becoming a vegetarian; the values behind being a vegetarian may be: being kind to all animals, reduce impact on the environmental, or supporting vegetarian industry, etc.<\/li>\n<li>An example of values help us remain flexible \u2013 when we know our valued direction, when we encounter a roadblock, we can find an alternative route that is consistent with our true values, and we will still be able to achieve our goals.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<\/div>\n<h1>Worksheet 3.5.1 \u2013 My Lifetime Achievement Award Party<\/h1>\n<h5><strong>Purpose:<\/strong><\/h5>\n<p>This exercise helps you to examine your own values, or what is most important to you in your life \u2013 what you stand for or care passionately about.<\/p>\n<h5><strong>Instructions:<\/strong><\/h5>\n<h5><strong>Part <\/strong><strong>1:<\/strong><\/h5>\n<p>Imagine this is your Lifetime Achievement Award party\u2026 Imagine that your life has unfolded perfectly as you wished. Your friends and family have organized a party for you, and some of your family members, friends, coworkers, or perhaps even other people in the community have prepared to make speeches about you. Now take a few minutes to write down:<\/p>\n<table style=\"height: 287px\">\n<tbody>\n<tr class=\"TableNormal-R\" style=\"height: 25pt\">\n<td style=\"padding: 0px 0pt;border: 0.5pt solid #231f20;vertical-align: top;height: 272px;width: 368.5px\" rowspan=\"2\">\n<p class=\"import-TableParagraph\" style=\"margin-left: 4pt\">Ideally, who might make a speech? Someone who is important to me<\/p>\n<\/td>\n<td style=\"border-width: 0.5pt 0.5pt 0pt;border-style: solid solid none;border-color: #231f20 #231f20 windowtext;padding: 0px 0pt;vertical-align: top;height: 32px;width: 770.015625px\" colspan=\"2\">\n<p class=\"import-TableParagraph\" style=\"margin-left: 3.95pt\">What I would <strong>like<\/strong> <strong>them<\/strong> <strong>to<\/strong> <strong>say<\/strong> about me in terms of:<\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/td>\n<\/tr>\n<tr class=\"TableNormal-R\" style=\"height: 114.7pt\">\n<td style=\"border-width: 0pt 0.5pt 0.5pt;border-style: none solid solid;border-color: windowtext #231f20 #231f20;padding: 0px 0pt;vertical-align: top;height: 240px;width: 362.375px\">\n<p class=\"import-TableParagraph\" style=\"margin-left: 3.95pt;margin-right: 17.75pt\">What I stood for and cared about throughout my life? (VALUES)<\/p>\n<\/td>\n<td style=\"border-width: 0pt 0.5pt 0.5pt;border-style: none solid solid;border-color: windowtext #231f20 #231f20;padding: 0px 0pt;vertical-align: top;height: 240px;width: 407.140625px\">\n<p class=\"import-TableParagraph\" style=\"margin-left: 3.95pt;margin-right: 17.75pt\">What actions or paths I have taken in life? (ACTIONS or NON-ACTIONS)<\/p>\n<\/td>\n<\/tr>\n<\/tbody>\n<\/table>\n<h5><strong>Part 2:<\/strong><\/h5>\n<p class=\"import-BodyText\" style=\"margin-left: 11pt;margin-right: 20.55pt\">Suppose you could read everyone\u2019s mind at the party but they are not aware that you have this super mind-reading power. What would you be most afraid that your loved ones thought about you in terms of the following::<\/p>\n<table style=\"height: 302px\">\n<tbody>\n<tr class=\"TableNormal-R\" style=\"height: 25pt\">\n<td style=\"padding: 0px 0pt;border: 0.5pt solid #231f20;vertical-align: top;height: 287px;width: 247.375px\" rowspan=\"2\">\n<p class=\"import-TableParagraph\" style=\"margin-left: 4pt\">Loved ones or people important to me<\/p>\n<\/td>\n<td style=\"border-width: 0.5pt 0.5pt 0pt;border-style: solid solid none;border-color: #231f20 #231f20 windowtext;padding: 0px 0pt;vertical-align: top;height: 58px;width: 891.140625px\" colspan=\"2\">\n<p class=\"import-TableParagraph\" style=\"margin-left: 3.95pt\">What I would fear the most that they thought about me in terms of:<\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/td>\n<\/tr>\n<tr class=\"TableNormal-R\" style=\"height: 114.05pt\">\n<td style=\"border-width: 0pt 0.5pt 0.5pt;border-style: none solid solid;border-color: windowtext #231f20 #231f20;padding: 0px 0pt;vertical-align: top;height: 229px;width: 418.78125px\">\n<p class=\"import-TableParagraph\" style=\"margin-left: 3.95pt;margin-right: 9.85pt\">What I stood for and cared about throughout my life? 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